EIGHT STRATEGIES FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES
AND LETTING GO OF ENERGY DRAINERS

“To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be.
When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.”
                                                                                  - Jack Kornfield

Setting boundaries and letting go of people who drain your energy are both essential for maintaining your physical and emotional wellbeing. It isn't easy. In fact, it’s challenging. But it's a necessary step for taking control of your life and relationships.

Here are eight strategies for setting boundaries and letting go of energy drainers.

1: Identify Who Is Draining Your Energy

It's important to be aware of who drains your energy and why. Are they constantly negative or critical? Do they make unreasonable demands on your time and resources? Do they take advantage of your kindness and generosity? Understanding the source of the energy drain helps you set better boundaries and make more informed decisions about your relationships.

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2: Be Clear & Direct about Boundaries

Once you've identified the people who drain your energy, it is important to communicate your boundaries clearly and directly. This is difficult, especially if you are dealing with a toxic or manipulative person. However, being firm and assertive in setting your boundaries is essential. Don't fear using "no" when you need to (more on that later), and don't apologize or justify your decisions.

Which boundaries do I need to communicate?:

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3: Get Away from Energy Drainers

If you're dealing with an energy drainer, it may be necessary to establish physical and emotional distance. You’ll likely need to limit your contact with the person or create physical space between you. It may also include setting boundaries around your emotional availability, such as refusing to engage in negative or draining conversations.

 Who in my life drain away my energy?:

4: Take Care of Yourself

Taking care of yourself is essential for maintaining your energy and wellbeing. Get enough sleep, exercise regularly, eat well, and take time for relaxation and hobbies. Setting aside time for yourself and prioritizing your needs and wants is fundamental if you want to do better at setting effective boundaries.

 What do I need to implement to take better care of myself?:

5: Get Support

It’s helpful to have a supportive network of people to turn to when setting boundaries and letting go of energy drainers. Talk to friends and family members you trust about your feelings and concerns. They will offer perspective, encouragement, and a shoulder to lean on.

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6: Get Professional Help

If you're struggling to set boundaries and let go of energy drainers on your own, seek the guidance of a therapist or counselor. A professional will provide tools and strategies for dealing with toxic or draining relationships and will help you work through any underlying issues.

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7: Learn the Power of Limits and “No”

Setting limits and saying "no" are both essential for setting boundaries. It's important to be clear about what you are and are not willing to tolerate in your relationships. For example, you may need to say "no" to unreasonable requests or limit the amount of time and energy you're willing to invest in certain relationships.

What prevents me from saying "no"?:

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8: Stop Feeling Guilty  

It’s natural to feel guilty when setting boundaries and letting go of people who have been a part of your life. However, it's important to remember that you have the right to care for yourself and set limits on your relationships. It is okay to let go of people who are unhealthy for you, even if you must end long-standing relationships.

Setting boundaries and letting go of energy drainers is never easy, but it's essential for maintaining your wellbeing and happiness. When you incorporate these strategies into your life, you will take full control of your life and relationships and protect your energy and time simultaneously.

For specific help with saying "no", setting clear boundaries, and/or taking better care of yourself, contact Dr. Marlene Shiple today! Just complete the simple form on The Life Coach Dr., LLC webpage at https://thelifecoachdr.com